Today women can not be feminine, they are not aloud to be. They must be public, active, productive, strong, powerful.... all the aspects that were male symbols before. Women can not be women in todays world, especially old women. They take us all our function and beauty of being mother, wife and keepers of inner secrets. So when we are old we are not like Mona happy, mystical and sedative, but full of misery and hatred.